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President’s Blog #6 – Holy Matrimony

 

Holy Matrimony, a marriage blessed by God, is best described in the vows I recently administered to two of our former students.

 

OPENING PRAYER

 

We are gathered here in the presence of God, family and friends to unite this Groom and this Bride in Holy Matrimony. 

 

Holy Matrimony is an honorable estate, and is therefore not to be entered into lightly, but reverently, advisedly, soberly and with God’s blessing. 

 

Today, Groom and Bride each will receive God’s greatest gift; another person to share with, grow with, change with, be joyful with and to stand with as one when trials and tribulations enter their lives. 

 

1st Reading:  Jesus said:  At the beginning of creation God made them male and female.  For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united with his wife, and the two will become one flesh.  Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate. Mark 10:6-9

 

It is fitting, therefore, that we should on this occasion begin by asking for God’s blessing on this marriage. Let us pray.

 

Heavenly Father, we gather to celebrate your gift of love, and its presence among us. We rejoice that these two people have chosen to commit themselves to a life of loving faithfulness to one another. We praise you, Lord, for the ways you have touched our lives with loving relationships such as those of our Groom and Bride, and we give thanks for the special love and friendship you have put in their hearts. 

 

Renew within them an affectionate and loving spirit. Enrich their lives with the gracious gift of your love so that they may embrace others with that same love. 

 

May our participation in this celebration of love and commitment give to us also a new joy and responsiveness to the relationships that we cherish. In the love that this moment gives us, we pray.  Amen.

 

You may all be seated.

Marriage as Holy Matrimony is a joyous occasion. It is connected in our thoughts with the charm of love, the warmth of home, and with all that is pleasant – indeed, one of the most important events of our life experience. 

 

DEFINITION OF COMMITMENT 

 

Marriage as Holy Matrimony is a joyous occasion. It is connected in our thoughts with the charm of love, the warmth of home, and with all that is pleasant – indeed, one of the most important events of our life experience. 

 

The sacredness and unity of Holy Matrimony is the most significant and binding covenant known in human relations.

 

Bride and Groom, let me challenge you both to remember that your future happiness has moved from I to we,  from separate to mutual – mutual consideration, mutual patience, mutual kindness, and mutual affection. It is the duty of each of you to find your greatest joy in the company of the other; to remember that your love pledged today must remain undivided for a lifetime.

 

It is your duty, Groom to be to your Bride, a considerate, tender, faithful, and loving husband: to support, guide and cherish her in prosperity and in trouble; to thoughtfully and carefully enlarge the place she holds in your life; to constantly show to her the tokens of your affection, to shelter her from danger, and to love her with an unchangeable love.

 

It is your duty, Bride, to be to your Groom, a considerate, tender, faithful, and loving wife; to comfort, guide and cherish him in prosperity and in trouble; to give to him the unfailing evidences of your affection; to continue making the place he holds in your heart, broader and deeper; to support him, value him and work with him to make your marriage the very best that it can be.

 

God calls to your attention the seriousness of the decision which you have made and the covenant you are about to declare before Him. The vows you are about to take are not to be taken without careful thought, for in them you are committing yourselves exclusively to one another for as long as you both shall live.

 

WEDDING VOWS

 

If you are ready to assume the obligations and duties of Holy Matrimony before God, as God has defined them, you will at this time unite your hands and pledge your love and your lives to each other.

 

Groom, repeat after me.

 

I Groom take you, Bride,

 

to be my lawfully wedded wife,

 

to have and to hold,

 

from this day forward,

 

for better, for worse,

 

for richer, for poorer,

 

in sickness and in health,

 

to love and to cherish,

 

for as long as we both shall live.

 

This is my solemn vow.

 

Now Bride, please repeat after me:

 

I Bride, take you, Groom,

 

to be my husband,

 

to have and to hold,

 

from this day forward,

 

for better, for worse,

 

for richer, for poorer,

 

in sickness and in health,

 

to love and to cherish,

 

for as long as we both shall live.

 

This is my solemn vow.

From the earliest times, the circle has been a sign of completeness. The rings that you have chosen to wear have neither beginning nor end, much like your love for one another. They are a symbol of the words that you speak today. 

EXCHANGE OF RINGS

 

Having this love in your hearts, you have chosen to seal your vows by exchanging rings.

From the earliest times, the circle has been a sign of completeness. The rings that you have chosen to wear have neither beginning nor end, much like your love for one another. They are a symbol of the words that you speak today. 

 

May these rings be from this day forward, your most treasured adornment, and may the love they symbolize, be your most precious possession. As you wear these rings, may they be constant reminders of these glad promises you are making today.

 

RING BEARER FOR THE GROOM PRESENTS THE RING

 

Groom, please place the ring on your Bride’s finger, and repeat after me:

 

I give you this ring as a sign of my love and faithfulness.

 

RING BEARER FOR THE BRIDE PRESENTS THE RING

 

And Bride, please place the ring on your Groom’s finger and repeat after me.

 

I give you this ring as a sign of my love and faithfulness.

 

2nd Reading:  The Apostle Paul said this about love – Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude.  It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrong doing, but rejoices with the truth.  Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.                            1 Corinthians 13:4-7

 

CLOSING PRAYER

 

Eternal God, help this Bride and Groom to fulfill the promises they have made here today and to reflect your steadfast love in their commitment to each other. Give them kindness and patience, affection and understanding, happiness and contentment. May their family and friends continue to support them in the good days and the difficult days, so that their love for each other may continue to grow as long as they both shall live.  Amen

 

DECLARATION OF MARRIAGE

 

Bride and Groom, having witnessed your vows for marriage before God and all who are assembled here, by the authority invested in me, I now pronounce you husband and wife. 

 

You may now kiss the bride!

 

INTRODUCTION OF THE WEDDING COUPLE

 

It is my pleasure to introduce to you for the first time:

 

Mr. and Mrs. Bride and Groom